Many things can go wrong in early pregnancy. About 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage. In a lot of cases the baby wasn’t developing normally and very often it is nature’s way of ending a pregnancy which wouldn’t have carried on.
Most of the time we don’t know what causes a miscarriage and there is nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. This may have been a complete shock to you especially if you did not have any signs that anything was wrong.
It can be an extremely difficult and emotional time for you and your family and can result in a wide range of feelings that usually come in stages.
Shock and denial: feelings of numbness and disbelief are common
Anger; you may be angry with yourself, your partner or the doctors. You may find yourself angry with friends, relatives, or co-workers for little things that usually don’t upset you.
Guilt: you may feel you did something to cause the miscarriage. If you took medicine, alcohol, smoke or over exerted yourself- perhaps before you knew you were pregnant. You might blame yourself for the miscarriage. If you had mixed feelings about being pregnant you may feel ashamed of the relief you feel along with your sadness.
Lack of control: you might feel powerless or out of control. You may keep thinking What if? Or Why?
Acceptance: coming to terms with the loss you feel is a painful but very important step. This will allow you to heal and build hope for the future.